Therapist Directory

The therapy listings are provided by BetterHelp and we may earn a commission if you use our link - At no cost to you.

Allan Herem, LMFT

California-based LMFT for relationships and growth
  • 23 years experience
  • Couples and family focus
  • Video phone chat

About Allan Herem

Allan Herem is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing in California with over two decades of experience supporting adults through complex life transitions and interpersonal challenges. He works with individuals, couples, and families to address issues such as depression, anxiety, relationship dynamics, parenting concerns, and questions of self-esteem and purpose.

Allan helps clients explore communication patterns, cultivate self-compassion, and strengthen social connections while navigating attachment and abandonment concerns, caregiver stress, commitment and control issues, and the aftermath of infidelity or separation. His practice gives attention to family of origin patterns, fatherhood issues, and the emotional work of forgiveness, guilt, and shame.

Using a compassionate, respectful stance, Allan guides people through feelings of isolation and emptiness toward more effective coping strategies and clearer personal boundaries. He emphasizes collaborative, thoughtful care that honors each person’s beliefs and lived experience while helping them develop practical tools for healthier relationships and greater emotional resilience.

Se habla español; Allan also offers services for clients who prefer Spanish language communication.

Areas of Expertise

Additional Focus Areas

AbandonmentAttachment issuesCaregiver issues and stressCommitment issuesCommunication problemsControl issuesDivorce and separationEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesForgivenessGuilt and shameImpulsivityInfidelityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMen's issuesMidlife crisisMoney and financial issuesMood disordersSelf-loveSocial anxiety and phobiaWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues

Frequently Asked Questions

How much experience does Allan Herem have?

Allan Herem has 23 years of experience.

Is Allan Herem a licensed therapist?

Yes. He holds the LMFT credential, which stands for Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. License details: CA LMFT 78937.

In which languages does Allan Herem provide therapy?

Allan provides therapy in English.

Where is Allan Herem located?

Allan is located in California.

How can I work with Allan Herem as my therapist?

You can work with Allan through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging.

Does Allan Herem work with international clients?

Allan does not currently work with international clients.

How much does therapy with Allan Herem cost?

The cost of therapy can vary depending on factors such as your location and the therapist's availability. Sessions are billed through a subscription that can be canceled at any time, for any reason. For current details, click the "Start Therapy" button on this page.

How can I get started with therapy?

Getting started is quick and straightforward. Click the "Start Therapy" button and complete a short questionnaire that helps match you with your therapist. Depending on availability, you can then schedule your first session by phone, video call, live chat, or in-app messaging.

Could Remote Therapy Fit Your Needs?

Many people wonder whether meeting with a therapist remotely can make a meaningful difference. For a range of common concerns - including stress, anxiety, depression, relationship challenges, and major life adjustments - online therapy is widely used and can be just as effective as traditional in-person sessions.

One major benefit is flexibility. Clients can choose the interaction style that suits them best - video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or in-app messaging - making it easier to fit therapy into a busy schedule or to access care from home.

Licensed professionals and therapists offering remote services follow established therapeutic approaches, and clients may change therapists if they are seeking a different fit. For many people, remote therapy provides a practical, effective way to begin or continue emotional and relational work.

Ready to start therapy with Allan Herem?

Take the first step toward a better you.