Paula Kane, BACP

Paula Kane works with people who are tired of always having to be strong, who doubt themselves, or who feel trapped in painful relationship patterns. Many who come to her carry the weight of childhood trauma or past abuse, habitually put others first, struggle to trust, or feel disconnected from their own sense of self. She supports those who want to feel safe in their bodies, to set boundaries without guilt, to rebuild confidence, and to regain a sense of control in their lives and relationships.

Paula uses a trauma-informed, collaborative approach that blends several ways of working to suit each person. Her practice emphasises understanding how trauma affects the body, brain, and relationships, while offering a person-centred stance that lets the client set the pace. She incorporates mind-body awareness to help calm the nervous system and reduce anxiety, and uses psychoeducation to make sense of trauma responses such as people-pleasing, shutdown, overthinking, or hypervigilance. Relational work explores attachment and recurring patterns so that healthier, safer connections can be developed, and focused boundary and self-worth work supports saying no without guilt and choosing oneself without fear.

Paula specialises in childhood sexual abuse, domestic and sexual abuse, and harmful or toxic relationship dynamics. She also works with people dealing with people-pleasing or codependency, low self-worth or identity concerns, anxiety, shame, trauma symptoms, trust issues or fear of abandonment, difficulty setting boundaries, and feelings of being stuck, numb, or overwhelmed. Sessions are delivered in a gentle, collaborative, and validating way that does not require a client to know where to start. In therapy with Paula, individuals can share their story at their own pace, make sense of patterns, release shame and self-blame, learn tools to regulate emotions and feel safer in the body, build healthier boundaries and relationships, and reconnect with inner strength and identity.

People often report that working with Paula feels like finally being understood and having someone in their corner to bear witness to what they have experienced. Paula holds the BACP credential - the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy - which is the professional body for counselling and psychotherapy in the United Kingdom.